Some people call them deadbeat dads, but I know that term is offensive to some, so I titled this discussion differently. That does NOT change my personal opinion, however.
When a father doesn't work at all, lets his girlfriend/new wife pay his bills, and refuses to give any money to his CHILDREN, that makes him a DEADBEAT DAD!
When a father chooses not to take advantage of the fact that the mother is willing to let him see his children anytime he wants, and goes for months without seeing or even contacting said child, that makes him a DEADBEAT DAD.
The mother may have decided that she has no further use for him, but that gives him no right to decide he has no further use for or obligation to his child. Many of these DEADBEAT DADS are spending money on beer and cigarettes but can't find a penny to spare for their child.
Furthermore, these DEADBEAT DADS are living with other women,letting her support him, while mom has married someone who is working 60 hours a week and paying for the children of the DEADBEAT DAD, since he's too lazy to get off his butt and fulfill his obligations. It's not about giving "free money" to an former wife, it's about continuing to take part in raising a child that you took part in creating.
If the DEADBEAT DAD were a REAL MAN, he would be paying his support on time, taking every available opportunity to be with his child, and then he wouldn't have to worry about getting tossed in jail, losing his job, his house, his vehicle, etc.
If a man supports and encourages his wife to be a stay at home mother while they are married, then he should be willing to still pull his weight when it comes to the CHILDREN....not the mother, granted, but definitely the CHILDREN.
So get over yourself and put your children ahead of trying to get back at your former wife for a change.