Friday, June 17, 2011

Finding Things To Write About

I mentioned at one point that sometimes I have problems coming up with something to blog about here. In the same set of questions I mentioned that I've been married twice before, have three children, two stepchildren and a total of four grandsons---and someone commented that, with those things alone, there should be PLENTY to write about. In a sense I agree, but in another sense, those things are no help at all.

Granted, there have been plenty of things that have happened in the last almost fifty years that I COULD write about, and I'd probably never run out of material. But at the same time, I try not to write about my exes, or my children, or my husband, without their permission...too much mention of certain children gets me in trouble, as said child/children do not appreciate having attention drawn to them. So rather than embarrass the child, and get yelled at, I try to find other, more acceptable topics on which to blog.

When I started this particular page, I DID expect that there would be lots of family stories, I really did. I guess maybe if I didn't post links on my Facebook page I could get away with it, but with my luck, someone would mention having read about something, and I'd still be toast. I have the worst luck that way, let me tell ya! LOL

I'm thinking that maybe I can go back in time, and write some stuff about my childhood, and by the time I get to THIS point in my life, it will all be past tense, and easier for everyone to read and accept. I'll give that a shot, and we'll see how it goes...wish me luck!

Find New Friends Weekend Hop

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Tuesday Blog Hop

Hello Readers! Want to find some great new blogs and get some new readers for yours??? Check out the "Hop a Little Tuesdays" blog hop for Mommies!! There are some great mom blogs to read!

The One Minute Writer, 6/14/2011

How do you know when someone is right for you?

I know when someone is right for me when he makes me feel good about myself...when he accepts me for who I really am, and doesn't try to change things about me...when he compliments me a lot....when he's very affectionate toward me.

Monday, June 13, 2011

The One Minute Writer, 6/13/2011

What do you expect today?

I expect to get a nap sometime today. I slept very poorly last night, as I had a lot of things on my mind, and couldn't get my brain to shut down and let me fall asleep until nearly 2 AM....and then awoke at 4 AM, catnapping for the next two hours.

What I Love About Me! Week Two


What I love about me this week is that I had the courage to express my opinion on something without filtering it to make it sound "pretty," to avoid hurt feelings. I said exactly what I thought, as honestly as possible, willing to let the chips fall where they may. For me, that's a HUGE step out of my comfort zone, and I'm not really sure where the courage and determination came from, but I LOVE that I was willing to take that leap.

I've seen this particular situation getting worse and worse for many months now, and other than complaining about it to my immediate family, I've just kept my opinions on WHY it was worsening to myself. Yesterday, some things that were said in church, paired with remarks made by my youngest daughter and her fiance, were just the final straws. I sat down and drafted an email, which I then had my daughter, her fiance and my husband read. Once they all approved, I slept on it and then re-read it this morning. I still find it to ring describes the problem, what I believe to be the causes, and even offers some possible solutions. I'll type it up as soon as I finish this post, hit send, and then wait to see if there is any sort of response to it.
Even if there isn't, at least I know that I said what, in my opinion, needed to be said, and made an attempt at fixing the problem.

And I LOVE the satisfaction that brings!

Saturday, June 11, 2011

The One Minute Writer, 6/11/2011

Write about something you think is tacky.
Something I find tacky is attacking another parent for their parenting choices. As long as the child is fed, clothed, sheltered, shown affection, etc., why do we care if they formula feed, circumcize or vaccinate? To each their own, people!!!

Affection Abounds

The Prompt:

Some of us show it easily, hugging relatives each time we meet. Wrapping our arms around friends.

Some of us are more reserved, rarely touching other people.

And then a few of us hang out somewhere in the middle. Hugging our children, but limiting our affection to handshakes with others.

This week we would like you to write about how the show of affection has played a part in your memory.

Choose a time when either the abundance or lack of affection (either by you or someone else) stands out, and show us. Bring us to that time. Help us feel what you felt.

My Response:
We had talked online and on the telephone almost every day for the last nine months. This day, however, was different. On this day, we were finally going to meet face to face.

I agonized for days over what to wear, and finally decided on a skirt and top. I put on my makeup and fixed my hair, and worried that I somehow wouldn't be what he was expecting. Then I sat around and tried to wait patiently for the appointed time.

When that wasn't happening, I decided to go downstairs and wait by the front door instead. I saw a car pull up, and while it was the same make and model he had said he would be driving, I still wasn't sure that it was him, so I waited. As soon as he stepped out, I recognized him from the picture he had sent me, and I practically ran out the door. The smile I saw on his face was one of the biggest I'd ever brought to anyone, and I know mine was looking just as big. We shared a quick, awkward hug, and then he helped me into the car.

As we drove the few blocks to our destination, we held hands and smiled a lot. We were also able to talk, and both admit that we had been extremely nervous to finally meet. Once we got to the hotel where he was staying, and into his suite, he pulled me into an embrace and a kiss...and we continued that for a good hour, with only the briefest snippets of conversation going on.

This was in 2000, and 11 years later, we're still a very affectionate couple. We can't walk past one another without at least reaching out to touch, or kiss....we sit close on the couch watching television, and hold hands...we say "I love you," whenever one of us goes out the door, and in our emails, as well as the last thing before we go to sleep. Ain't love grand? :)

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Expounding On The Six Word Memoir

This post is written from a prompt, provided here:


1.) Last week you chose a 6 word memoir to share…this week elaborate. Tell us the story or thought process behind the sentence you wrote.

My six word memoir: Eight years together, still going strong.

My husband, Barry, and I met online in July 1999. He moved from Arizona to Ohio to be with me and my three children in August 2002, and we married on May 31, 2003. We've been through our share of bad times over those years....problems with the children, health issues, marriage difficulties...but those have been offset and outnumbered by the good times...celebrations, dates, day trips, vacations...and just the simple knowledge that we're there for each other, come what may.

Granted, there have been times when one or the other of us, or both of us, thought we might never ever get to this point. But I believe that the fact we're still together--that we've worked at staying together--speaks volumes toward how committed we both are to making sure this marriage is, in fact, "till death do us part."

The Things People Say.....

What's the stupidest thing you've heard in the last week? Maybe online, or a work, or from a friend or family member?

So far this week, I'd have to give that distinction to a Facebook poster on a discussion regarding donated breast milk.
This poster stated that the idea is "disgusting, disturbing and absurd" and that she would rather have her child drinking cow's milk than milk from some other woman. I was absolutely shaking my head in amazement as I read this!

Human breast milk is produced for the specific purpose of nourishing human children. Cow's milk is intended to nourish calves...and the milk that is sold for human consumption is full of growth hormones and antibiotics. Human breast milk helps to improve a child's immune system, while the additives in cow's milk can damage it.

If I were a new mother who, for whatever reason, could not provide my child with my own breast milk, I would be thrilled at the thought of getting it from a donor. Of course, I would want to know that she had been properly tested, to make sure the milk would not be passing along any germs or drugs that could be harmful to my child, but other than that, I don't see why it would be so "disgusting, disturbing and absurd."

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

The One Minute Writer, 6/7/2011

Write about a competition you've enjoyed being involved in.

My favorite competition is our monthly trivia game, with a great team of friends. We consistently come in third, but we have so much fun at it that it really doesn't matter. It's more about the time together....and occasionally learning totally useless facts that we'll probably never use again.

Random Tuesday Thoughts

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* WHY would you throw out your child's old mattress before you got them a new one, unless you were sure you were going to be able to get them a new one that day?

* Who in the world came up with saving air so you could compare odors...and thought it would be a great tool in crime fighting? I just don't get it, at all.

* If someone is calling you names and causing "drama," then why go running to tell other people about it and call that person even worse names, then complain about how much you hate "drama"? If you don't like it, don't keep it going--don't respond, don't involve other people, just ignore it!

* How hard is it to understand "We won't need you to mow the yard every week, so we'll just let you know when it needs it"? That doesn't mean go ahead and mow it every week and then come knocking on the door expecting your $20.

* Random text messages in the middle of the night, from numbers you don't least they're better than phone calls, because they don't wake me up, but the next morning they leave me shaking my head, wondering if they ever got in touch with the person they MEANT to text.

Monday, June 6, 2011

The One Minute Writer, 6/6/2011

Write about a situation that made you think, "I can't believe I just did that."

It was two months ago...the day that I put a query letter into the mail for an article I wrote. I sent it off to OHIO magazine, and I'm now waiting not so patiently to get a response from them. Hope to hear something this week based on their average response time!!

It's All Fun and Games Blog Fest

Today's assignment is to write about our three favorite games.

1) My top favorite game is Trivial Pursuit. I'm constantly amazed at the vast amounts of seemingly useless information I have stored in my head, usually unbeknownst to me, which comes flooding out when I play this game...or any other trivia-based game. Sometimes I'll answer a question without even thinking about it, be right and then ask myself "Where did THAT come from?"

2) Next would definitely be Tetris. This is not just a favorite game, this is an addiction....and I'm not ashamed to admit it. Now that I have it on my phone, it's worse than ever. Sitting in the waiting room for an Tetris. Watching a tv show that isn't really catching my Tetris. Long car Tetris. I wind up charging my phone more often from playing Tetris than from actually using it as a PHONE. Oh, and I can't forget the handheld game that my son bought me almost eight years ago. That thing has seen more use than just about any other object in the house, except maybe for the computer. And it must have some superhuman self-charging battery in it....I've still got the ORIGINAL one running it! (Probably just jinxed it and will have to run out and get a new one this week, my luck! LOL)

3) Last, but by no means least, would have to be Monopoly, although I don't play as much now as I did when my oldest daughter was still living at home. Playing with her was a challenge though...everything had to be done JUST SO or she would freak out on displayed in a specific manner, money kept in an orderly fashion, etc. I've never been good at playing Monopoly, but it was always worth it to play just to see what she was going to have a hissy over this time....(I know, I know, I'm a horrible, mean, awful person....but she inherited the same traits, so it's all good! LOL)

What I Love About Me!



1. I am beautiful (Personally, I think every woman should start her list with this one!)
2. I am sexy.
3. I am a good mother.
4. I am a loyal friend.
5. I am a good listener.
6. I am very empathetic.
7. I am caring.
8. I am loving.
9. I am sentimental.
10. I am a HUGE romantic.
11. I am emotional and sensitive, although sometimes to extremes...but at least I can express my feelings!
12. I am a giver (sometimes to the point of having nothing left for ME--but I'm working on that part!)
13. I am a talented writer and poet.
14. I am amazing at remembering trivia.
15. I am intelligent.
16. I am good with children.
17. I have a warped sense of humor.
18. I am passionate, about a variety of things.
19. I am a hard worker when it's something I care about.
20. I am persistent.
21. I am forgiving (sometimes too much)
22. I am trusting (again, sometimes too much)
23. I am dependable.
24. I am a good cook.
25. I am an even better baker.
26. I have strong opinions.
27. I am willing to admit when I'm wrong.
28. I will fight for what I want.
29. I am willing to make sacrifices for the good of my children.
30. I am willing to fight for the good of my children.
31. I am stronger than most people think I am, including myself.
32. I am willing to take the occasional step outside my comfort zone.
33. I have an open mind.
34. I am willing to accept new ideas.
35. I refuse to accept failure as an answer.
36. I look for the best in everyone and everything.
37. I wear my heart on my sleeve.
38. I am a planner and list maker.
39. I can still be spontaneous and adventurous.
40. I'll do whatever it takes to make the people I love happy.

This post is part of LoveLinksthis week....check it out!

Sunday, June 5, 2011

Little Miss Independent

#4 Independence! What does it mean to you?

Independence, in its most basic form, means freedom. For me, that means that I have the freedom to be ME--to have my own opinions, to do my own things, to follow my passions, to live my own life. Granted, there are times--as a wife and mother--when I have to put my freedom on the back burner in the best interests of someone else, but still, in the end, that is because I had the freedom to CHOOSE to do so, not because I was compelled to do it by someone else.

I used to get teased that, by being born on July 5th, I take the concept of "independence" a little more seriously than most. I'm not sure that's where it comes from, but the fact of the matter is that I have always been, or wanted to be, an independent soul. As a child, that was often a bone of contention, particularly with my mother.

As I moved into the part of my life where I was involved in romantic relationships, I found myself hiding more and more of the "real me," wanting to fit in and wanting people to like me. Eventually, I began to feel as if there was no time when I could honestly be who I wanted to be, and to resent everyone I felt had been part of taking that away from me.

Over the last few years, however, I have come to realize that the only person who took it away, and who could bring it back, was ME. So now I am becoming "TERESA" again, a little more every day.
The strength, the independence, the confidence, the ability to state my opinion even when no one else shares's all coming back, and I feel FREE again!!

I Deserve....

This is a tough one for me to write. I'm not good at looking at myself and thinking that I deserve much of anything, at least not in a GOOD way. I've always felt as though the bad things in my life came to me because I deserved them, and the good things were just by accident, or because of dumb luck.

Things I Deserve:

To be respected as a human being.
To be loved.
To be able to express my opinions, even if you don't agree with them.
To have my writing read and appreciated by others.

Okay, that's not much...but I may come back and add more to this later, or even some time in the future.

Saturday, June 4, 2011

Books I've Read in June 2011

1) Daniel X: Demons And Druids, by James Patterson...completed 6/1/2011
Daniel X's hunt to eliminate each and every intergalactic criminal on Earth is always relentless, but this time, it's getting personal. Number Three on the List of Alien Outlaws takes the form of raging, soul-possessing fire. And fire transports Daniel back to the most traumatic event of his life-the death of his parents.

In the face of his "kryptonite", Daniel struggles with his extraordinary powers like never before, and more than ever is at stake: his best friends are in grave peril. The only way to save them is to travel back-through a hole in time-to the demon's arrival during the Dark Ages. Rip-roaring action and humor sets the pages afire in this gripping time-travel adventure with an Arthurian cast-and countless other surprises!

2) Crazy Love:Overwhelmed By A Relentless God, by Francis Chan
Chan, senior pastor of Cornerstone Church in Simi Valley, Calif., offers a radical call for evangelicals to consider and emulate in this debut guide to living crazy for God. Chan's own life compels him to live with urgency, and with good reason. His mother died giving birth to him, his stepmother died when he was nine, and his dad when he was 12. As a pastor, Chan says that conducting weekly funerals for people younger than himself has likewise sobered him to life's unexpectedness and frailty. Chan writes with infectious exuberance, challenging Christians to take the Bible seriously. He describes at length the sorry state of lukewarm Christians who strive for a life characterized by control, safety and an absence of suffering. In stark contrast, the book offers real-life accounts of believers who have given all—time, money, health, even their lives—in obedience to Christ's call.Chan also recounts his own attempts to live crazy by significantly downsizing his home and giving away his resources to the poor.Earnest Christians will find valuable take-home lessons from Chan's excellent book.

3) Queen Of The Night, by J.A. Jance
Murders old and new disturb the peace of Tohono O'odham Nation residents and their Arizona neighbors in this fourth entry in Jance's Walker Family series. Californian Jonathan Southard is so seething with resentment that he kills his wife and children and goes after his remarried mother in Tucson. Reverberations from Southard's crimes touch the former sheriff Brandon Walker, his wife, Diana, and their adopted Native American daughter, Lani, exacerbating old wounds at a time when Walker is worried about Diana's mental health. Perhaps as a way of reacquainting readers with this series—there have been lapses of three to four years between installments—Jance inserts great chunks of backstory, as Diana hallucinates dead men who once terrorized her. Tohono O'odham tales and culture, which permeate the book (reminiscent of Tony Hillerman), and the flower of the title, the beautiful and aromatic cereus, which blooms in the desert just one night each year, add appeal, but the awkward backstory gimmick and the lack of much narrative pulse make this a somewhat tepid entry from a best-selling author.

4) Wicked Appetite, by Janet Evanovich
Fans of Evanovich have a new series to revel in, although a few characters are familiar. Lizzy Tucker has a way with cupcakes, and she’s inherited a great-aunt’s 1740 saltbox house in Salem, Massachusetts, plying her trade at Dazzle’s Bakery in town. Who should turn up in her living room but Diesel (Visions of Sugar Plums, 2002), who is extremely handsome, very strong, and not entirely human (if not entirely angelic). Diesel is locked into a cosmic battle with his cousin Wulf, specter-thin with more than an air of sulfur about him. Lizzy, who may or may not have a secret, special ability, is needed by Wulf and Diesel to recognize objects of magical power. What follows is a romp that careens wildly between impossibly silly and impossibly adorable (and includes the reemergence of Carl the monkey from Evanovich’s Plum Spooky, 2009). Lizzy gamely attempts to make sense of oddly magical occurrences (in possession of one of the magic charms, she can’t stop eating; in possession of another, she wants household goods and babies now), while simultaneously dealing with some fairly specific threats involving Wulf and resisting Diesel’s obvious affection and attraction. Classic Evanovich tropes like the replacement of trashed vehicles and the dumb-but-charming sidekick who refuses to learn from her mistakes are in evidence, as well as a gentle snarkiness about role-playing, angels and demons, and otherworldly almost-boyfriends.

5) The Reversal, by Michael Connelly
Connelly may be our most versatile crime writer. His Harry Bosch series has taken the hard-boiled cop novel to a new level of complexity, both in its portrayal of the hero’s inner life and in Connelly’s ability to intertwine landscape and meaning. His Mickey Haller novels, on the other hand, starring the maverick lawyer who uses his Lincoln Town Car as an office, are testaments to the sublime architecture of plot. With the crime novel now commonly rubbing elbows with literary fiction, it sometimes seems that pure story has become a forgotten stepchild. In his Haller novels, Connelly reminds us how satisfying it can be to follow the path of a well-constructed plot. So it is here, in the third Haller novel, which finds the antiestablishment attorney accepting an unlikely offer: a one-time gig as a prosecutor, retrying a case in which a killer’s 24-year-old conviction has been overturned on the basis of DNA. Taking second chair will be Haller’s ex-wife, the formidable Maggie, with Harry Bosch (identified in The Brass Verdict, 2008, as Haller’s half brother) serving as special investigator. The table is set for a straightforward legal thriller, albeit one starring three superbly multidimensional characters. And, yet, Connelly bobs and weaves around all our expectations. There is suspense, of course, and there are plenty of surprises, both in the courtroom and outside of it, but this is a plot that won’t be pigeonholed. Reading this book is like watching a master craftsman, slowly and carefully, brick by brick, build something that holds together exquisitely, form and function in perfect alignment.

6) Personality Plus, by Florence Littauer
Each of the following statements relates to one of the four basic personality types: Melancholy, Phlegmatic, Sanguine, and Choleric.

Which of these statements do you relate to most?
- Whether at home or work, I am well organized and keep everything in its proper place.
- It's difficult for me to express excitement, even about something that's really important to me.
- When shopping at the mall, it's not unusual for me to forget where I parked the car.
- I get annoyed when my employees don't follow my instructions to the letter.

In Personality Plus, Florence Littauer gives you valuable insight for appreciating your one-of-a-kind, God-given personality. She includes a Personality Profile test that reveals how your unique blend of traits affects your emotions, work performance, and relationships. Through humorous anecdotes and straightforward counsel, Personality Plus guides you to improve upon your strengths and correct your weaknesses.

This engaging book also provides keys to understanding those around you. You'll learn how to accept-and even enjoy-the traits that make each of us so different. Personality Plus is the tool you need to change your life, and the lives of those you care about, for the better.

7) The Postcard Killers, by James Patterson
A young American couple is murdered while vacationing in Europe. The young woman’s father Jack Kanon, a New York City police investigator travels to Europe to hunt down the murderer. Other young couples in, France, Germany, Denmark and Sweden have since then been killed and the evidence points in the same direction. Kanon joins up with Scandinavian journalist Dessie Larsson to find the murderer. Kanon and Larsson must work against time since every murder is preceded by a postcard to a regional daily.

Total year to date: 27

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Why I Blog

#4 I blog because…

When I started this blog, it was going to just be someplace to occasionally post stuff that was on my mind, or stuff that the family was up to at the moment. Then I started taking my "writing for publication" class, and got bitten by the writing bug, so I was posting a little more often. I found a few writing challenges, and started posting to them weekly, and through reading other responses there, I found other challenges and memes to keep me writing. Then I found out about "postaday2011," and that was just the push I needed.

So now I'm committed to posting something here every day for the rest of the year. By that point, I figure it will have become a habit, and I'll be able to continue to post every day. As a writer, it's important for me to keep WRITING...some days will be easier than others, and some posts will be more pertinent than others, but at least I'll be writing.

So, if you stop by here regularly you'll see a mix of things...fiction, memories, opinions, random facts about me, pictures, and the occasional surprise. I hope that the combination of these things will give you a glimpse of who Teresa was, is and hopes to become.

Six Word Memoir

This post is written from a prompt, provided here:


1.) Six Word Memoir: Write about a significant time in your life in just six words.

Eight years together, still going strong.

(May 31 was our anniversary!)
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